Women who allow themselves to fall victim to bad boys simply cannot accept that men do not think as they do regarding intimate relationships.
I've had the experience of attempting to inform women who are emotionally tied to these insensitive and inattentive men as to what motivates them.
"Young woman, all this guy wants from you is sex. He is not interested in you as a person nor does he care about you in any way, shape, or form. If it appears that he does care about you, it is only a temporary act to get you into the bed. The truth of the matter is that he will always revert to his true self after satisfying himself at your expense. Don't you get it?"
They usually answer, "Well, yes, I do get it but...."
What they really mean is, "No, I am clueless."
The pattern goes something like this...
- He is good to her
- He is attentive and demonstrates caring
- He is possibly even romantic
- He takes her to bed
- He takes a nap
- He becomes abusive: emotionally, verbally, physically
- He treats her badly
- He is inattentive and could care less about her
- He goes his own way and does what he wants to do, when he wants to do it, and who he wants to do it with
- He needs sex again
- He begins to be good to her again
- He is attentive and demonstrates caring
- He is possibly even romantic
- He takes her to bed
Bad boys are interested in only one thing. The women who fall prey to these manipulative jerks are victims because they allow their love to overwhelm their better sense.
There is another factor to consider when analyzing what it is that causes good women to be attracted to bad boys.
These men also represent flirtations with danger or being able to venture into experiences they have never had before. Women who have lived straight lives, whether that be the result of being raised in a more conservative manner or having come out of a more sterile kind of marriage relationship, can be willing victims for these predators.
Like the proverbial fly who wants to get close enough to the fire and not be burned, bad boys serve as tour guides into the seemy side of life.
As a result, regardless of repetative breakups and reconsciliations, they have no idea that they have already flown too close to the fire and have been badly burned.
If you recognize yourself on this page, perhaps it is time to reach out and get some serious help before it is too late.
